Remember Who You Are
Like many, I struggle to see myself as others do. I am an enneagram 8, my birthday is April 20th, which puts me on the cusp of Aries/Taurus (probably more of a Taurus), and I’m the middle child.
I do know that, at times, I am demanding, and there is not an introverted bone in my body. I often struggle not to say exactly how I feel, and I have learned through the years that this combination is generally not well-received. I care deeply for others, am as loyal as they come, and always root for the underdog.
When I received my cancer diagnosis, I felt the floor slip out from under me. There was so much darkness. The future I had seen for myself and my family had been suddenly stripped away. I was unsure of the future, myself, and how I would keep going.
My friends came to the rescue.
I am in awe of the women God has placed in my life. Their friendships are not by accident, coincidence, or chance.
Each one of these ladies was by my bedside. They held me, my husband, and my children, as we started to build our new normal.
They have and continue to surround me with their faithfulness; they stand in the gap when I am scared and continue to lift us in prayer, petitioning God for his complete healing.
When I started creating this blog, I asked my friends to describe me, and I did not expect their responses to be so inspiring. Their words reminded me of who I was when I struggled to find myself; they reminded me of the fighter that I am.
My sister, Mande (aka Madreane)
The friend, mentor, and life coach, Kathy Walter.
The lifelong best friend, Tami.
This is what ride-or-die is all about.
My Mom Gang: Cindy & Becky.
If you are struggling to find yourself. If you have just received a diagnosis or life-changing news, I would encourage you to fall back on your support community.
Ask them to remind you of who you are, to remind you of your immense strength. It can be easy to forget your strength sometimes, so let your friends remind you how capable you are.
Need some help getting started?
Here is an example of how I asked my friends to help describe me.
I found a wonderful blog about EGFR cancer, and one of the posts suggested a little homework assignment: "How would your friends describe you?"
Well, what better way to answer that than ask the people that know me best? I think this will help me say more than just, the pretty one, the one with the good parties, [insert self-praise here.]
Whatever you think of just shoot my way; definitely doesn't have to be a lot. I love you and appreciate anything you have to share!